#179 - My Dog Is Burning Me Out

And I Feel Terrible Saying That

August 12, 2026

TLDL (Too Long, Didn’t Listen):

✅ You’re not alone – New research found that among dog owners managing behavior challenges, 78% met criteria for elevated caregiver burden, 53% reported feeling alone, and 40% reported social isolation.

✅ Pushing through doesn’t build resilience, for you or your pet – Life is a rollercoaster, and you need the release at the top, not just to keep climbing… forever.

✅ “Name it to tame it” is a real thing – One small thing at a time will lead to large lasting changes.

Episode Overview:

I did not sign up for this.” 

It’s the one little sentence that flashes in your brain as you clean up another accident, watch your dog blow up over the sounds of a car door three blocks away, or spend yet another Friday night at home alone. 

It’s one little sentence that sends you, and pet parents all over the world, into the pit of guilt, despair, and shame. 

This week, Emily is joined by Valerie Bogie, Veterinary Social Worker, Pet Harmony team member, and overall empathetic badass. Valerie walks through what caregiver burden, burnout, and compassion fatigue actually are (versus normal stress), why “just push through it” makes things worse, and what to do instead.

If you’ve ever found yourself crying in the bathroom over your pet’s behavior, you’re not alone, and there is help out there.

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Meet the Hosts

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Allie Bender, CDBC, CPDT-KA, SBA

Allie Bender is a Certified Dog Behavior Consultant, Certified Professional Dog Trainer- Knowledge Assessed, and a Shelter Behavior Affiliate. She has been in the animal welfare industry since 2006 and professionally training since 2012. She is the founder and co-owner of Pet Harmony, co-author of Canine Enrichment for the Real World, and a national speaker.

While in the animal sheltering industry, Allie realized that her passion lied in helping pets with maladaptive behaviors. Today she spends most of her time teaching other trainers and behavior professionals the skills they need to have their most fulfilling, sustainable careers.

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EMIly strong

Emily Strong has been in the animal welfare industry since 1990 and has been a behavior consultant since 2008. She is the co-owner of Pet Harmony, co-author of Canine Enrichment for the Real World, and a national speaker. 

Emily started working with animals at a young age and struggled with the notion that you have to hurt, scare, or intimidate animals to help them. Emily loves helping current and prospective behavior professionals and working with pet parents through our in-depth services. She enjoys working with all species.

Team Members in the Episode

Valerie Bogie, MSSW, Veterinary Social Worker

Valerie Bogie, MSSW, VSW, is a Veterinary Social Worker, educator, speaker, and former animal care professional with more than 25 years of experience across veterinary medicine, zoos, aquariums, shelters, and animal behavior. Through training, consultation, and coaching, she supports the people who care for animals by strengthening communication, well-being, leadership, and the human–animal bond.

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