Episode #137 - All Work And No Play Makes Everyone a Dull Critter

Let go and let dog

October 20, 2025

TLDL (Too Long, Didn’t Listen):

1️⃣ Let Go of Perfection – So much stress with our pets comes from our own expectations. When we stop trying to be the “perfect” pet parent and allow room for mistakes (theirs and ours), we create more joy and less shame for everyone involved.
 
2️⃣ Let Dog Be Dog – Dogs are beasty beasts. They are real animals with real emotions. They’re not little furry humans or obedience robots. Giving them agency, honoring their full range of feelings, and embracing their quirks helps build trust and connection.
 
3️⃣ Play, Curiosity, and Chaos Are Healthy – Enrichment isn’t just prescriptive, structured activities. Enrichment is curiosity, communication, and shared silliness. Lean into the chaos, celebrate the weird moments, and remember that play and joy are just as important as training plans.

Episode Overview:

So many of us (pet parents and pros) get tangled up in “shoulds”.  
 
My dog should behave better. 
 
I should know how to fix this.
 
People shouldn’t think my dog is “bad.”
 
But what if some of the hardest parts of living with our pets aren’t really about their behavior… but about the pressure we put on ourselves?
In this episode of Enrichment for the Real World, Emily and Tiffany unpack how our beliefs around control and perfection can make everyone miserable—and how giving our pets agency, and ourselves grace, can bring the joy back.

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Meet the Hosts

Allie Bender, CDBC, CPDT-KA, SBA

Allie Bender is a Certified Dog Behavior Consultant, Certified Professional Dog Trainer- Knowledge Assessed, and a Shelter Behavior Affiliate. She has been in the animal welfare industry since 2006 and professionally training since 2012. She is the founder and co-owner of Pet Harmony, co-author of Canine Enrichment for the Real World, and a national speaker.

While in the animal sheltering industry, Allie realized that her passion lied in helping pets with maladaptive behaviors. Specifically, she wanted to help prevent animals with rehabilitatable problems from being euthanized. She loves working with dogs and cats displaying stranger danger, resource guarding, and leash reactivity. Her favorite thing about working with pets and their people is seeing relationships grow and seeing harmonious households develop.

EMIly strong

Emily Strong is a Certified Dog Behavior Consultant and Shelter Behavior Affiliate. She has been in the animal welfare industry since 1990 and has been a behavior consultant since 2008. She is the co-owner of Pet Harmony, co-author of Canine Enrichment for the Real World, and a national speaker. 

Emily started working with animals at a young age and struggled with the notion that you have to hurt, scare, or intimidate animals to help them. When she discovered the behavior sciences and learned that it wasn’t necessary to do so– that we can care for emotional, mental, and physical health simultaneously– she plunged headfirst into animal behavior. Emily loves helping current and prospective behavior professionals and working with pet parents through our in-depth services. She enjoys working with all species.

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